Counselling & Hypnotherapy in Surrey

How We Can Help You
At Wise Blue Owl Therapy Centre therapists, Alan Piper and Kate Hudson-Hall both have over 16 years experience of working with clients with mental and emotional health problems.

We have found that the most beneficial therapies to free our clients of their mental and emotional health problems are,counselling, psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, neuro linguistic programming (NLP).

By addressing all the areas of your life connected to your anxiety. Reprogramming your conscious and subconscious mind to change these behaviours, reducing your mental and emotional health problems completely. For you finally to live your life permanently free from your past negative thoughts and feelings.

Alan R Piper - My Qualifications:
Diploma in Complete Mind Therapy – (CMT) Dip.C.M.T
Diploma in Neuro-linguistic programming – (NLP)
Dip.N.L.P.Diploma in Clinical Hypnotherapy – HPA  (Hypnotherapy Practitioners Association)
Philosophical Counselling Practitioner in Hypnotherapy Practitioners Association
Member of General Hypnotherapy Standards Council (GHSC)
Member of General Hypnotherapy Register (GHR)

Kate Hudson-Hall - My Qualifications:

• Diploma in Therapeutic Hypnosis and Psychotherapy – (NSHAP) Dip.THP
• Advanced Hypnotherapy Practitioner Diploma – (NSHAP) Dip.AdvHYP
• Diploma in Diet and Nutrition – (ASET) AFA.Dip
• Advanced Master Practitioner in Neuro-linguistic programming – (NLP) D.N.L.P.
• Diploma in Complete Mind Therapy – D.C.M.T
• Emotional Freedom Technique Level 3 – (AAMET)
• Certificate in “Care during the final hours and bereavement”.
• Member of NHS Directory of Complementary and Alternative Practitioners since 2004
• I am a list therapist on the Gender Intelligence Network

Reviews:

• I love Kate and Alan and what they have created here. Among many healing therapies offered, I enrolled in a mindfulness class. Using a blend of skills, and disciplines, Kate gently teaches and guides us back to the wisdom and vast font of resources within ourselves. Even me! I would not hesitate to recommend anything they offer.Neil Long - DJ and Breakfast Show Radio Presenter.

• I had hypnosis for anxiety something …
  I had hypnosis for anxiety something I've had suffered from a very long time from a young age. Alan focused on this and I feel less anxious and more at peace. Although my chronic fatigue has not gone away but my thoughts are more positive. I would recommend this therapy centre
  Usha Blanch

Areas we can help you with:

Anxiety

Anxiety disorders are much more than just nervousness and worrying. They can be quite terrifying as fear about things that other people wouldn’t give to much thought to, magnify into uncontrollable anxiety. Many people with these disorders understand that their thoughts and feeling become irrational, but they still can not stop them. When you get anxious, you tend to have this pervasive thinking about some worry or some problem and you feel negative about it.

It’s normal to feel a higher level or to get a little anxious at times. Maybe when preparing for a special event or exam or when entering into unfamiliar situations, such as a new job. Often a certain amount of stress is needed for you to perform well and do your best. If feelings grow to an excessive level and are not channelled correctly, they can become a huge problem. If you’re suffering from high levels of anxiety you know how debilitating it can be. Anxious feelings can stop you from enjoying your life. They can limit you in your career, can stop you sleeping and relaxing. Anxiety can cause actual physical symptoms resulting in illness if they are allowed to get out of hand.

Anxiety can show up in our lives in different ways and forms but is often characterised by feelings of fear and worry about current or future situations, although often these feelings can be triggered by memories of a past event. It can cause the following symptoms; panic, fear, and uneasiness, sleep problems, not being able to stay calm and still, cold sweaty or numb or tingling hands or feet, shortness of breath, heart palpitations, dry mouth, nausea, tense muscles, dizziness. Causes can vary from external factors such as worry about work, study, money. Even stressful relationships or a traumatic event from the past can trigger anxiety. Anxiety causes can also be the possible side effects from medication or hormonal changes, during PMT (pre-menstrual tension) or the menopause for example.

Research has shown that psychotherapy, clinical hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) can help resolve panic attacks, anxiety, stress, fear, anger. It can also be used to help in dealing with issue like substance abuse, gambling addiction and weight loss. Agoraphobia a common condition for people with anxiety. Agoraphobia involves a fear of having panic attacks or anxiety attacks under restrictive circumstances. For example - like crowds or while driving and stuck in traffic jams.

Anger

We tend to become angry when reacting to frustration, criticism or a threat. This is not necessarily a bad or inappropriate reaction.It is is also common to feel irritated by other people’s beliefs, opinions and actions. Anger can affect our ability to communicate effectively. making us more likely to say or do unreasonable or irrational things. Being unreasonable or irrational can lead others around us to feel threatened, resentful or angry themselves. These will all be barriers to effective communication.

Anger can also be a ‘secondary emotion’ to anxiety. Feelings of sadness or being frightened and panic attacks. Or feeling threatened or being lonely.It is useful to try to understand why you (or somebody else) is feeling angry. So that the root causes can be addressed and problems solved.Anger can be expressed in many ways; different types of anger affect people differently and can manifest to produce different actions and signs of anger. The most common signs of anger are both verbal and non-verbal.Anger can be expressed verbally and also be expressed through body language and other non-verbal cues. By trying to look physically bigger and therefore more intimidating. Staring, frowning or clenching of fists. Some people are very good at internalising their anger and it may be difficult to notice any physical signs. It is however unusual for an actual physical attack to transpire without ‘warning’ signs appearing first.

The common things that tend to make us angry

Grief – loss of a family member, friend or other loved one.
Rudeness, poor interpersonal skills and/or poor service.
Tiredness.
Being Hungry.
Feeling Injustice.
Infidelity.
In being a victim of bullying.
having been humiliated or embarrassed.
Being told that you or a loved one has a serious illness.
Sexual frustration.
Money problems and debt.
Working to unrealistic deadlines.
Dealing with issues beyond our immediate control.
Being stuck in traffic.
A feeling of failure or disappointment.
Result of taking drugs or alcohol or when withdrawing from such substances.
Being a victim of crime.
Being either physical unwell.
living with a pain.

Adrenaline and Cortisol
When feeling anger our bodies release the hormones adrenaline and cortisol.These being the same hormones released when we encounter fear or stress. As a result of these releases in hormones our blood pressure, pulse, body temperature and breathing rate may increase, sometimes to potentially dangerous levels.This is natural chemical reaction is designed to give us an instant boost of energy and power and is referred to as the ‘fight or flight’ reaction.This means that the body and mind prepare for a fight or for running away from danger. People who get angry quickly find it more difficult to manage their anger effectively. Not dealing with anger can lead to other physical health problems. Our bodies are not designed to withstand high levels of adrenaline and cortisol over long periods. Or on a very regular basis.

Addiction

General Signs of substance Addiction
Poor work performance, being chronically late to work, appearing tired and disinterested in work duties, and receiving poor performance reviews.
Changes in physical appearance, such as wearing inappropriate or dirty clothing and a lack of interest in grooming.
Altered behaviour, such as an increased desire for privacy.
Drastic changes in relationships.
A noticeable lack of energy when performing daily activities.
Spending more money than usual or requesting to borrow money.
Issues with financial management, such as not paying bills on time.
Changes in appetite, such as a decreased appetite and associated weight loss.
Bloodshot eyes, poor skin tone, and appearing tired or run down
Defensiveness when asked about substance use.

Gambling Addiction

Gambling is one of the most destructive habits in the world. It doesn’t destroy your liver. It won’t give you lung cancer. Even after a real bad run of bad luck. You can be reasonably sure that you won’t be stretchered away, having expired with a mouth full of vomit. No harm done. It’s only money that is the belief.

Experts of addiction point out that problem gamblers are subject to is a mix of messy contributing factors and associative disorders. “We’ve known for along time that problem gambling is not a standalone issue,” says Dr. Rachel Volberg, President of Gemini Research, which conducts gambling-related studies. “Problem gamblers are likely to have other substance abuse issues, usually alcohol and tobacco. Depression and anxiety are also prevalent among problem gamblers.”

In terms of the gambler’s tendency toward suicide, however, these factors serve only to cloud the issue. The most reliable killer of people with gambling problems can be summed up in a single word: debt. Because once negative equity enters the picture, gambling addiction moves into a category of its own.

Smoking

Cigarette smoking is one of the greatest single cause of illness and premature death in the UK. Worldwide the number is far greater. Tobacco is killing around seven million people each year. Nearly 100,000 people in the UK die from smoking-related illnesses each year, one in five adults are regular smokers. 40 years ago, 51% of men and 41% of women were smokers.

Stop smoking can be difficult challenge for a person to face. They they will often need more than just willpower. There are many options now available. For many people, hypnotherapy is an effective solution.

Success Rates for Stop Smoking Hypnotherapy
Success Rate for Cessation 90.6% successful. Using Hypnosis University of Washington School of Medicine. Depts of Anesthesiology and Rehabilitation Medicine. Int J Clin Exp Hypn. 2010 Jul;49(3):257-66. Barber J.

87% Reported Abstinence From Tobacco Use With Hypnosis. Performance by gender in a stop-smoking program combining hypnosis and aversion. Johnson DL, Karkut RT. Adkar Associates, Inc., Bloomington, Indiana. Psychol Rep. 1999 Oct;75(2):851-7. PMID: 7862796 [PubMed – indexed for MEDLINE]

81% Reported They Had Stopped After Hypnosis Texas A&M University. System Health Science Center, College of Medicine, College Station, TX USA. Int J Clin Exp Hypn. 2004 Jan;52(1):73-81.

Patients using Hypnosis, Twice As Likely To Remain Smoke-Free After Two Years. Guided health imagery for smoking cessation and long-term abstinence. Wynd, CA. Journal of Nursing Scholarship, 2001; 37:3, pages 245-250.

Hypnosis Is More Effective Than Drug Interventions For Cessation of Smoking. Ohio State University, College of Nursing, Columbus, OH 43210, 2003 USA Descriptive outcomes of the American Lung Association of Ohio hypnotherapy smoking cessation program. Ahijevych K, Yerardi R, Nedilsky N.

Grief

When we encounter the death of a friend or family member or somebody who was close in our life. We suffer grief. Grief and bereavement are the period we spend changing in accordance with this sadness. There is not a set in stone way on the way how to feel during these occasions.

Grief can show in startling ways. A few people angry, a few people pull back into themselves and a few people become totally numb. Some of the time, grief can trigger other emotional conditions, as depression,anxiety, outrage, stress, these are characteristic sentiments in the wake of losing somebody in our lives.

IBS

Irritable bowel syndrome is a disorder which involves recurrent abdominal pain stomach discomfort and often intermittent diarrhoea or need to visit the toilet frequently. After a eating there can be urgent need to empty the bowels. IBS symptoms do differ from one person to the next so don’t worry if you symptoms vary from someone else’s. Gas-related symptoms including, bloating, discomfort, painful spasms and cramps can be particularly common.

It generally has significant impact on the quality of your life. Often anxiety and stress are associated to triggering or aggravating IBS. Hypnotherapy has proven helpful in alleviating the symptoms of anxiety, stress and nervousness and help in the long term.

Panic Attacks

They can happen anytime anywhere and without warning. You may live in fear of another attack and may avoid places where you have had an attack. For some people fear takes over their lives and they cannot leave their homes.

A person suffering from panic attacks can experience unexpected intense feelings of fear. These are often accompanied by physical symptoms such as heart palpitations, dizziness, breathlessness, chest pain or stomach pain. They can be extremely distressing as they can happen when least expected. They also can cause feelings of embarrassment and shame, especially if the attack happened in a public place.

It is more common than you would think. They can often start when people are young adults. Sometimes they starts when a person is under a lot of stress. Most people get better with treatment. They are also often referred to as anxiety attacks are reasonably easy to cure by seeking out the right kind help. Removing the fear and letting you be happy again.

People who suffer would of normally experienced a previous bad experience or trauma of some kind. Causes of panic attacks can vary from external factors such as worry about work, study or money. Even stressful relationships or a big traumatic event their past. They can also be caused by the possible side effects from medication or hormonal changes, during PMT or menopause.

Sufferers will be hiding or working around their true feelings and emotions. This causes their fight or flight decision making decision to work out of calibration resulting in adrenaline kicking in at an inappropriate time.

Adrenaline kicking is is a normal and needed part of human functionality that serves as the fight or flight emotional make up of every normal person. It is there to serve the purpose of , that if a danger presents itself we arm our self mentally & physically to fight that danger or run from it. We have to make a split second decision subconsciously on which of those two courses of actions to take.

Research has shown that hypnotherapy can help resolve panic attacks, anxiety, stress, fear, anger. It can also be used to help in dealing with things like substance abuse, gambling addiction and weight loss. While under hypnosis, a person with panic disorder may be guided to bring attention to coping with specific symptoms and overcoming limiting behaviours.

The hypnotist will use calming words of encouragement, like “You feel safe despite your discomfort” or “You are in control of your panic.” The hypnotist will also suggest ways to cope with these feelings, such as “Taking deep breaths during your panic attacks and this makes you feel calmer.”

The hypnotist can help the person focus on getting past their phobias and suggest ways to remain relaxed when in feared environments. Hypnotherapy can help a person with panic disorder improve self-esteem, overcome negative thinking, and manage troublesome symptoms.

Once the hypnotherapist has helped the client become relaxed, he may ask the client to focus. The client will bring awareness to the physical sensations, emotions, and cognition’s associated with their attacks such as chest pain, shaking, and fear.

Hypnotherapy will also help the resolution of agoraphobia, a common condition for people with panic disorder. Agoraphobia involves a fear of having panic attacks under restrictive circumstances, including crowds or while driving. Hypnotherapy can allow a person to learn how to remain relaxed while facing these fears.

Phobia

From an unusual fear of crowded locations or open areas to a chronic fear of spiders or social situations, many of us have anxieties above-common fears which for reasons lead to undue anxiety which can bog a person down which can control the manner they behave or lead their lives. Common fear like fear of flying and even driving for instance.

Fear of Flying

Fear of Flying: A fear of flying that is not caused by medical concerns or other phobias may be caused by a range of factors, including: Experiencing a traumatic flight. We can successfully identify the triggers that produce your anxiety and fear , and take the first steps to resolve it. It’s important to note that fear of flying is not a single phobia. Most people who fear flying are claustrophobic, or frightened of being locked in the plane and unable to choose when to get off.

Driving Phobia

Driving phobia is sometimes part of the agoraphobic disorders. The person concerned is also likely to fear other every day things like, standing in queues, going onto bridges, and being in places where they feel trapped. They may also have social fears, such as fear of blushing, trembling, talking, eating in front of other people, or going into meetings or situations with groups of people. Some people with driving issues have General Anxiety Disorder and feel anxious wherever they are. As with all fear and anxieties, these are not mental illness. Quite often a driving anxieties also includes a fear of bridges and / or tunnels.

Phobia Therapy

Avoidance: It is common to develop as an exaggerated or unrealistic risk involved when faced with a certain situation or object. If the fear become’s excessive people tend to organise their lifestyles around keeping away from the issue that’s causing them fear or anxiety, as well as restricting their day-to-day existence. Many people suffer a fear, it can for many be an intense fear or feeling of anxiety that occurs only in certain situations.

People will often shape their lives to avoid what they consider to be dangerous. The imagined threat is greater than any actual threat posed by the cause of terror. These are more serious than simple fear sensations and are not limited to fears of specific triggers. Despite individuals being aware that their phobia is irrational, they cannot control the fear reaction.

Relationship Counselling

Relationships can throw many surprises at us all sometime, often where we cannot predict the outcome of any situation.

Not only troublesome differences, but individual and personal differences and repeating patterns of behaviour add additional stress and anxiety . These then add additional stresses and tension between any couple. These in turn cause emotional sometimes physical or more often than not mental and emotional damage.

With our relationship counselling sessions, you’ll learn about acceptance. How to exert your power of choice over whatever life may throw at you.

Couples counselling

Couples counselling are terms of counselling used for a couple married or not, and of any mixed gender. It is a modern expression of what use to be called marriage guidance, It may differ from other forms of counselling. Short term counselling is usually 6 sessions. Long term couples counselling may be more sessions.

Relationship counselling not only covers a relationship between a couple. It can cover broken down relationships between members of a family or employers – employees in a workplace or between a professional and a client. However within the workplace this is more often than not resolved with “workplace mediation” See mediation. In contrast: relationships are more covered by relationship counselling to help resolve and heal the difference between a couple.

Relationship counselling is the 1st and gentle step to help a couple or family members resolve their differences. Most couples and family members do not want or need the added burden and trauma of legal representation and high costs of legal involvement. They find they can resolve difference amicably with the help and support of counselling. Mediation is centred more for when a relationship has irrevocably broken down and has become (or is to become) legal. Where these legal discussions need to start to make agreements to the financial, child care and custody solutions after a divorce or separation, once that separation or divorce has been set into the legally process.

Couples therapy

Couples therapy – Is more about solving seemingly intractable problems where emotions and feelings are often the area of problems.

Marriage guidance

Marriage guidance – Is an old term and refer’s to either or some combination of the above.

Mediation – Mediation is a procedure in which the parties discuss their disputes with the assistance of a trained impartial third person who assists them in reaching a settlement. The parties will fashion the solution as the mediator moves through the process. Mediation is a commonly used to help solve problems and family disputes.

Self Harming

All teenagers go through psychological and emotional changes, research show’s there is corresponding structural development taking place in these years. This in its self can lead to anxiety, panic attacks and other emotional issues. Understanding these natural developments that occur in the teenage’s and their effect on behaviour. Learning about hormone’s, sleep patterns, emotional reactivity, memory, attention span, motivation and self confidence helps the teenager. Resulting in helping parents understand why their teenager is behaving in that way, thus reducing family stress all round.

The difference between suicide and deliberate self-harming – More about the difference between suicide and deliberate self-hurting is not as clear as we would like it to be. Although completed suicide is a rare occurrence, episodes of self-harm and suicidal behaviour are not. Early intervention can help to address underlying problems that can lead to such behaviour. Many people who self-harm do not come to the attention of health services and when they do, many do not return or cannot be followed up. As the risk of suicide is considerably higher among people who have self-harmed it is crucial that practitioners are best equipped to give the most helpful initial response in such circumstances.

A sign of emotional distress – Hurting one on purpose is always a sign of emotional distress and poorly developed coping skills. Whilst it is ultimately damaging and may be dangerous, for many people it provides a method for coping with life. Taking away a person’s means of self-harm can increase the emotional distress and make the situation worse unless professionally dealt with.

Definitions of self harming – Hurting ones self without suicidal intent, resulting in non-fatal injury – Attempted suicide is self-harming with intent to take like, resulting in non-fatal injury – Suicide is self-hurting resulting in death Mental Health Foundation 2003. These may include -cutting -Burning – Scalding – Banging head -Biting – Inserting objects into body – Self poisoning.

Stress

Stress is a natural but often unwanted and irrational emotion. Everybody will experience this from time to time in the live.

Experts describe this emotion as a primary and natural emotion that has evolved in a way of as being the surviving and protecting yourself from what is considered a wrong doing emotion.

Some of the issues that cause stress
Grief and/or sadness, loss of a family member, friend or other loved one.
Rudeness, poor interpersonal skills and/or poor service.
Tiredness.
Being Hungry.
Feeling Injustice.
Infidelity.
Victim of bullying.
Humiliated or embarrassed.
Being told that you or a loved one has a serious illness.
Sexual frustration.
Money problems and debt.
Working to unrealistic deadlines.
Dealing with issues beyond our immediate control.
Being stuck in traffic.
A feeling of failure or disappointment.
Result of taking drugs or alcohol, or when withdrawing from such substances.
Being a victim of crime.
Being either physical unwell.
living with a pain.

Stress and Adrenaline

When we are stressed our bodies release the hormones adrenaline and cortisol.These being the same hormones released when we encounter fear or anger. As a result of these releases in hormones our blood pressure, pulse, body temperature and breathing rate may increase, sometimes to potentially dangerous levels.

This natural chemical reaction is designed to give us an instant boost of energy and power and is often referred to as the ‘fight or flight’ reaction.

This means that the body and mind prepare for a fight or for running away from danger. People who get stressed find it more difficult to manage their anger effectively. Not dealing with stress can lead to physical health problems. Our bodies are not designed to withstand high levels of adrenaline and cortisol over long periods or on a very regular basis.

Some of the health problems that may occur:

Aches and pains, usually in the back and head.
High blood pressure which can lead to serious complaints such as stroke or cardiac arrest.
Sleep problems.
Problems with digestion.
Skin disorders.
Reduced threshold for pain.
Impaired immune system.
It can also lead to other psychological problems:
Depression.
Reduced self confidence.
Eating disorders.
Alcoholism.
Substance abuse.
Self-injury.
Sexual problems

Problems often stem from past experiences. These experiences can shape your behaviour and belief system. So while you may think another person or situation is causing your problems, it may well come from yourself.

To do so, your hypnotherapist will work on a conscious and unconscious level to help change your negative thought processes. Doing this may involve relaxation techniques and suggestions from your therapist to help control your anger.

It is that this will change your reaction to the triggers. Instead of feeling overwhelmed you should feel calmer and more relaxed. Feeling calmer in stressful situations helps you to think more clearly so you can react in a more appropriate way.

Sleep Disorders

Do you need help resolving your sleepnessness problems. Which in turn can lead to increased anxiety and stress related problems. We can help you resolve those problems and improve the quality of your life with our qualified and experienced therapist. Acute and chronic insomnia often respond to relaxation and hypnotherapy also do nightmares and night terrors.

Self Confidence

Improve Self Confidence – Esteem is the phrase we use to describe the opinion we have of ourselves. It refers to how we think, the type of person we are, our abilities and what we expect for the future. When our self-esteem is healthy, we tend to feel good about ourselves and have a positive outlook on life in general. A high self-esteem gives us the courage and strength to deal with the ups and downs in life – without them having a long-term impact on our health and well-being.

Hypnotherapy for self improvement – Entrepreneurs are always looking for ways to improve their performance, work more efficiently and eliminate barriers to success. When you run into problems in your business, it triggers your body’s stress response. This stress response keeps your mind in a problem-focused state as opposed to a solution-focused state.

Hypnotherapy uses “guided relaxation, intense concentration, and focused attention” to achieve a heightened trance-like state. This heightened state is so intense that it can bypass the stress and anxiety you’re feeling, which means that the stress hormones that would have been building up now dwindle. When you come out of hypnotherapy your previous stress is significantly reduced or eliminated, allowing you to approach the problem from a different mindset.

Eliminates negative thoughts that keep you stuck – Hypnotherapy can help you to have a similar competitive advantage in your niche. Hypnotherapists focus on guided imagery and future pacing to help their clients see themselves as having already achieved their outcome, and ease the subconscious into the idea that it’s already happened.

Shyness & Nervousness

The most common signs of a nervousness are:

Depressive symptoms, such as loss of hope and thoughts of suicide or self-harm.
Anxiety with high blood pressure, tense muscles, clammy hands, dizziness, upset stomach, and trembling or shaking.
Insomnia.
Hallucinations.
Extreme mood swings or unexplained outbursts.
Why do I feel nervous for no reason? – Stress, including anxiety-caused stress, is the cause of this symptom and not some other medical or biological problem. Anxiety and stress are the most common causes of nervous.

Eating Disorders.

Anorexia

Anorexia is a serious mental health condition. It’s an eating disorder where a person keeps their body weight as low as possible. People with anorexia usually do this by restricting the amount of food they eat, making themselves vomit, and exercising excessively. The condition often develops out of an anxiety about body shape and weight that originates from a fear of being fat or a desire to be thin. Many people with anorexia have a distorted image of themselves, thinking they’re fat when they’re not. It most commonly affects girls and women, although it has become more common in boys and men in recent years.

Signs and symptoms of anorexia

People often go to great lengths to hide their behaviour from family and friends by lying about what they’ve eaten or pretending to have eaten earlier. Signs someone may have anorexia or another eating disorder include:

Missing meals, eating very little, or avoiding eating any fatty foods – Obsessively counting calories in food, leaving the table immediately after eating so they can vomit – Taking appetite suppressants, laxatives, or diuretics (a type of medication that helps remove fluid from the body) – Repeatedly weighing themselves or checking their body in the mirror – Physical problems, such as feeling lightheaded or dizzy, hair loss, or dry skin.

Bulimia

It is having the knowledge behind you to begin to take that huge weight your loved one maybe carrying and help them to begin to unload and think about the first steps to support them in their recovery.

Reassurance and love are the two dominating factors when speaking to your loved one.

We have learnt so much over the years of how to approach someone with an eating disorder and some good positive ideas are:

Get on the net, read books or articles and start to learn as much as you can about bulimia or which ever eating disorder your child, friend, partner may have with the aim of encouraging them to see their GP.

Understanding facts and myths

Understand the difference between the facts and myths about bulimia, weight, nutrition and exercise. Having good clean clear facts will be a great asset for when you are ready to address your child, friend, partner. Knowledge is an amazing tool to help you explaining maybe incorrect thoughts that could be driving their bulimia.

Think clearly about how you are going to approach them, with the aim to make a bullet point list of exactly what you want to say and this will help firstly for you to have a clear picture about what you want to say and secondly help reduce any anxiety you may have about addressing their problem.

Create a calm, private time for you to talk with your loved one, your loved one will not appreciate you trying to discuss their deep dark secret in front of others, remember it is a secret, but it needs to be discussed and ignoring it will not work!

Opening up

When you have found the right time be honest about your concerns, explain what you have noticed in their behaviour, use “I see” statements,

“ “that you are skipping your evening meals”

 “ noticed you are going to the gym much more than you ever where”.

“ become aware of how often you go to the bathroom straight after you have eaten”.

Rather than bounding in there with “why are you going to the bathroom right after every meal?” as this could increase their denial or they could become very defensive.

It’s important to focus on them and not at the moment, on how you feel about their behaviour, stick to the facts you have learnt about bulimia, what you have noticed in their behaviour, what your concerns are.

Talking with someone with an eating disorder and be very emotional for your loved one and for you, so it’s important to be caring but firm, your loved one needs to take responsibility for their actions in order for them to begin to think about how they are going to tackle this.

We offer a wide range of therapies and treatments for clients in Surrey & Middlesex and surrounding areas, Ashford  Staines, Sunbury, Chertsey, Heathrow, Hounslow, Egham, Windsor, Shepperton and online, phone and Skype therapy. Some treatments offered are: With therapy rooms in  Ashford, Surrey.  and at Pools on the Park, Richmond. We also provide online and telephone services.  We are local to

Addlestone
Staines
Chertsey
Sunbury
Egham
Epsom
Feltham
Guildford
Richmond
Heathrow
Hounslow
Shepperton
Leatherhead
Reigate
Windsor
Virginia Water
Sunningdale
Walton
Weybridge
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