People who come for sessions with me are meeting someone who is experienced in this work. This doesnâ€™t suit everyone: you may want to choose a therapist who is younger to feel theyâ€™re more on your wavelength; or for your first taste of therapy you might choose someone more newly-qualified than me. Many of my clients nowadays are people who have had other therapists or other types of therapy before coming here, and may already have a good idea of what they may be looking for in the work. But personally, I donâ€™t mind if youâ€™re a beginner in therapy or an â€˜old handâ€™. Though I don't have a specialism in this work, I am particularly interested in working with men's issues and also the problems facing older people of both genders.
I think people are always the experts on themselves (having had a lifetime of experience of being who they are), but they canâ€™t always recognise their own expertise. My job is to learn about you and then respond as clearly and candidly as I can, to show how your strategy for living looks from the outside. Then we can talk about how those viewpoints fit together, and what new approaches can be created from that.
For this process to be fruitful and creative, we both have to be involved, so I canâ€™t hide behind a professional persona. I donâ€™t just listen, and itâ€™s crucial that I freely offer my opinions from time to time. I attempt to be as real as I can. I often make intuitive decisions in relating â€“ but I rely on getting as much feedback from you as I give, so we can stay in touch with each other as much as possible throughout the process. In this way we build a relationship together not for the purpose of friendship, nor to offer â€˜tea and sympathyâ€™, but in order to get clearer about how you make sense of your world and tackle lifeâ€™s inevitable challenges.
On many maps it's marked as the south bit of Brook Street, so watch out - it isn't!
From the High Street go uphill past the Red Lion, past the village green, past the Methodist Church, but if you cross the railway bridge you've gone too far.
Coming the other way, come down Trinity Road and look out for the railway bridge (the railway's in a cutting underneath you). My house is one of the row of cottages downhill from the bridge on the right.