Meeting a Counsellor for the first time can feel scary, even though you want to speak to someone impartial who is a complete stranger, doesn't know your family or friends and who won't make judgments about you.
I OFFER A FREE HALF HOUR CONSULTATION TO HELP YOU DECIDE IF YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH ME AND FOR ME TO HEAR WHAT YOUR PROBLEMS ARE SO THAT I CAN ASSESS WHETHER I CAN HELP YOU.
Counselling and psychotherapy provide an opportunity to talk about emotional dilemmas and offers support with overcoming challenges at work and in your personal life, for example with loss, life change, stress, anxiety and depression.
The counsellor's learnt skills combined with life experience contribute to an empathetic understanding for those who come to them for counselling.
Counsellors and psychotherapists have a variety of skills that can help resolve internal conflicts so that making informed decisions that initiate change can help you discover who you are and decide what you want and how to get it . Once you feel motivated, set goals and action a step-by-step process to achieve your goals, you create a fulfilled and happy life in the future.
I am an experienced counselling psychotherapist, most of which has been spent working in the NHS Primary Care sector in Dorset and Hampshire. I currently work with employee Assistance Programmes (EAPs) and see private clients at my home in the Christchurch area.
I am a qualified supervisor and offer mentoring and supervision to students and qualified therapists.
My approach to counselling, psychotherapy and supervision is 'Integrative', which means I work with different theoretical models of counselling and psychotherapy to help clients move forward with their life.
Do you believe others will think you're mentally ill If you see a Counsellor or Psychotherapist?
Clients sometimes say they won't tell family and friends about their counselling because they will be judged as being 'mentally ill'. Seeing a counsellor or psychotherapist does not mean you are mentally ill.
Mental illness includes schizophrenia, personality disorders, psychotic episodes, bi-polar depression and other psychiatric classifications of unhelpful and socially inappropriate behaviour. If you feel you do have a mental health problem, see your doctor and they will assess whether seeing a psychiatrist would be helpful.
Anxiety, depression and stress affect relationships and quality of life. Understanding the reasons why you may feel out of control and unable to cope is more than half-way to taking control and finding your personal power to make changes. Counselling and psychotherapy can get to the root of why stress, depression and anxiety develop and offers support in recovery. Very often medication assists recovery in conjunction with counselling and psychotherapy. If your doctor considers medication may help the counselling process, he or she can give you a prescription. As your mood improves your doctor will monitor your reovery and slowly and safely reduce medication. Never stop medication without consulting your doctor - stopping suddenly can make your mood and symptoms much more severe!
I believe that everybody benefits from therapy, at least once in their life-time. At some stage, everyone experiences change and loss. How you adapt to life-changing events is important in building confidence,improving self-esteem and self-worth, perhaps developing a stronger personal identity, or changing your ideas about your self-image.
Whatever decisions, relationship issues, dilemmas and difficulties you face, counselling and psychotherapy can help through transition times so that you feel confident in creating a new future.
Both counselling and psychotherapy help to resolve internal conflicts, encourage personal growth so that with increased self-confidence you can create your life how you want it. Counselling and psychotherapy can help understand why you feel the way you do and with understanding, new perspectives on the past, present and future have room to develop.
Both counselling and psychotherapy enable clients to make changes in relationship with themselves and others so that their life is enriched, happier and more fulfilled.
Counselling and psychotherapy is concerned with well-being: emotionally, mentally and perhaps, spiritually.
A Frequently Asked Question:
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COUNSELLING AND PSYCHOTHERAPY?
Counselling is be helpful for current life problems and may take a few weeks or months. Counselling can help you understand why you experience repeating patterns and learn how to change them in the present.
Psychotherapy can help you understand how unhelpful life patterns stem from early life experiences affect you as an adult.
Psychotherapy helps you let go of unhelpful patterns of behaviour over a longer amount of time than counselling because learned behaviour starts from birth, with memories, messages and meanings hidden in the unconscious. It takes time for unconscious memories and meanings to surface,which is why psychotherapy takes longer.
Understanding why you adopted certain behaviours enables you to change and grow your life the way you want to now.
Psychotherapy can change your life!
DO I NEED COUNSELLING OR PSYCHOTHERAPY?
Whether counselling or psychotherapy would be of most benefit, both pathways show you how to build inner resources and discover the resources you already have, but didnâ€™t know you had!
We discuss which pathway is best for you in the FREE half hour meeting.
What Counselling and Psychotherapy DON'T Offer:
Neither counsellors or psychotherapists give advice, work with agendas, or have the answers to your problems!
What Counselling and Psychotherapy DOES offer:
Both therapies will help you find solutions to what troubles you.
YOU have the answers to your problems - my role is to help you discover what they are!
COUNSELLING FOR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS IN BOURNEMOUTH, POOLE, CHRISTCHURCH & EAST DORSET
'WHY DO MY RELATIONSHIPS GO WRONG?'
This question poses most client's anxiety about relationships. Not understanding why relationships break down can lead to loneliness, isolation, depression, anxiety, stress related behaviour patterns and mental health problems.
We cannot be alive without being in relationship!
Did you know counselling and pscyhotherapy can help resolve relationship difficulties and challenges?
Gaining a deeper insight into yourself and others is the route to changing behaviour, feeling happier and developing inner resources to help grow a positive approach to most relationship difficulties.
Counselling and pscyhotherapy can heal relationships and increase understanding between couples, friends and family. We are all in relationship - with ourselves, others and the environment. If you understand the dynamics of your relationships - how your thoughts and actions influence everyone and everything outside of you then you can change unhelpful patterns of thought of behaviour. When you understand the origin of your thoughts and behaviour that cause disruption in relationships your perception will change, allowing a ripple affect to positively influence all relationships.
Whether you want to understand why you react the way you do in all relationships, or specifically with your partner, counselling and psychotherapy will improve the quality of your relationships, resolve differences and internal conflicts and make allowances for differences between yourself and others.
Couples gain insight and understanding into relationships and life problems through counselling. Learning to adapt to each other's needs is an essential for the relationship - and the individuals involved - to continue to grow independently and together.
Not understanding why you experience relationship problems can leave you feeling that thereâ€™s something wrong with you.
SUPERVISION IN BOURNEMOUTH CHRISTCHURCH, POOLE & EAST DORSET
I am a qualified supervisor of counsellors and psychotherapists with many years experience. My style of working is Integrative (see the 'Contact Me' and 'Qualifications' pages on my website detailed under 'Contact' above).
Whether a counsellor in training, or qualified and experienced, I am happy to meet with you for a FREE twenty minute chat to discuss your needs and approach to working as a therapist.
MENTORING & LIFE COACHING
Mentoring is ideal for those studying counselling or related subjects who want advice and a second opinion about academic requirements and practical considerations.
Making decisions about life changes can feel confusing. Life Coaching can help make decisions and motivate change. For example, changing a career, or other important life change.
Life coaching is not counselling or psychotherapy but an opportunity to talk through dilemmas with an impartial listener. However, your self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence and self-identity may need to be discussed and worked on to help you achieve your aims.
Life Coaching is a tool you can use in the future - learning how to form strategies, utilise inner resources, make decisions and set goals will help you achieve what you want, whether in your career or personal life.
Life coaching may need one or several sessions, depending on your needs.
FIND A NEW DIRECTION WITH YOUR CAREER THROUGH LIFE COACHING.
IF YOU WANT A HAPPIER LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS...
Whatever your dilemmas and relationship problems counselling and psychotherapy can be the road to creating a happier life.
The ripple effect from counselling is that everyone close to you benefits!
If you live in Christchurch, Bournemouth, Poole or the surrounding areas a FREE half hour meeting to discuss what troubles you may lead you on the road to a happier life!
For happiness, a balanced heart and mind is essential if you want to enjoy good relationships - with yourself as well as others!
Counselling and Psychotherapy can help you achieve it!
COUNSELLING & PSYCHOTHERAPY FEES NEGOTIABLE: Â£40-45.00 PER SESSION.
SUPERVISION FEE: Â£40.00 PER HOUR
MENTORING FEE: Â£30.00 PER HOUR
LIFE-COACHING FEE: Â£30.00 PER SESSION
For more information please contact me as detailed under 'Contact', or through the email facility below.
Tuesday 10:00am - 6:00pm
Wednesday 2:00pm - 6:00pm
Thursday 10:00am - 6:00pm
Friday 10:00am - 6:00pm
Saturday 10:00am - 12:00 noon